Why do goals fail? If you’ve set yourself a goal, but haven’t achieved it yet, there could be many reasons for that. We’ll look at seven possible causes of failure in our discussion below. Many people set goals and resolutions at the start of each year and then fail to achieve them. I know I have set goals and failed at them. Just as I have set goals and achieved them. Looking back over my achievements and non achievements, I can see many reasons why I have succeeded or failed at the goals I set myself.
When I was asked ‘what is a big failure in life that I have had?’ I had to really think. As I have had many goals that I could say I failed at. Even now some goals I am aiming for, I could say I’m failing at. Sometimes progress is hard to see. Being asked ‘what is one thing you have failed at in life?’ is hard to answer. Especially when you believe you learn by doing. For there are no failures in life only lessons.
There are no mistakes in life, only lessons. There is no such thing as a negative experience, only opportunties to grow, learn and advance along the road of self mastery. From struggle comes strength. Even pain can be a wonderful teacher.Robin Sharma
7 Reasons why you may be failing at achieving your goals.
One thing for sure, when you have goals you need to focus and be committed to the goals. Yes, life often gets in the way and comes between you and your goals. Sometimes it is possible to continue working towards the goals, other times goals are replaced. One of the key things I learnt was you need to know where you are going.
1. You’re Not Specific About Your Goals.
Part of the reason for failing at goals is the lack of a clear destination. Not knowing what you really want. It’s easy to set vague goals. “I’m going to lose weight” is not very specific. Instead, try setting more detailed goals. “I will lose 5 pounds by next week.” This gives you something to aim for and makes it easier to track your progress.
If you’re unsure about how to set goals read how to write down your goals for a balanced life. If you find are unsure with what you would like to achieve be guided by the ideal life map, a guide to help you mindfully plan and visualise your ideal day, your goals and work towards your ideal life.
2. You Have No Map To Guide You.
Once you know where you are heading, map out your path. Create your blueprint on how to get there. It is OK to say ‘I would like to work from home’, but do you know what you would like to do or even what options you have.
At university, you are given a plan that guides you on what courses to take as a full time or part-time student. This helps with the planning progress.
Plan out your path. However, remember that there are many options and sometimes you need to try one option before ruling it out and moving to another option. Focus on learning by doing.
Fail to plan, plan to fail.Jim Rohn
3. You are focusing on too many goals at once.
It is important not to focus on too many goals at once. I believe in having be, do and have goals in the different spheres of your life; health, wealth, relationships, but focusing on too many at once can lead to failure in all the goals.
Working on too many goals at once is a core reason I was failing to achieve the goals I set myself. That is why I started to research and learn more on goals and habits to become clearer on how to set and achieve life goals.
By really taking time to work out what you really want, you can narrow down your focus. Focusing on one goal at a time certainly helps with achievement and satisfaction.
I’ve even found that by having a key focus word for the year helps too.
Have you heard of the Irish Proverb ‘A jack of all trades is a master of none?’ When you focus on too many goals at once it is difficult to master any.
Become clear on what you would like to achieve and break the goal down into manageable steps. Example image below is form article commit to creating new habits to make life changes, it shows how to break down a weight loss goal into daily, weekly and monthly habits.
4, Your why, the why you want to achieve the goal is not deep enough.
One of the big things that lead to success is having something that drives you. Your reason behind why you would like to achieve a goal.
A study goal may help you get a better job or help with self-employment. That is only one reason. There is often a deeper reason behind what you achieve and don’t achieve. This is linked to your core values. Keep asking yourself why you want to do something to drill down to the deeper why.
Money of often not deep enough, what you will obtain with money you make is a deeper why.
Freedom is not deep enough, what your definition of freedom give you is your deeper why.
5. You are not taking action towards your goal.
When you have a goal, it is great to write it down and map it out but you need to take action too. Some action is better than no action.
An example of a small action step is writing out the meal plan with healthy meals you plan to eat this week.
Procrastination stops dreams from being achieved. Also the longer you stop and think about the goal the harder it is to get going and get momentum.
When life gets in the way it can be difficult to stay persistent and push through obstacles. Yet, if the goal is strong enough you will find a way to get back on track as soon as you can. Or, you may find that you can take action for 10 minutes that day. A small step is better than no step at all and it is amazing what can be achieved in a focused time.
6. You fail to achieve goals because the goals are overwhelming.
A big reason people fail to achieve a goal is it is a long term goal, a scary goal or simply a goal that is really stepping you out of your comfont zone. Sometimes you stop aiming for a goal because you become overwhelmed at the sheer size of it. Not knowing the actions steps to take or not knowing how to break the goal down. The goal simply appears too big or too far in the distance. Many times you become overwhelmed because of what you need to learn or change to achieve it. You revert back to your old ways. However, going back to mapping out your goal can help you here. Even creating a vision board can help you stay focused on your goals.
When you plan the steps needed to achieve your goal work backwards with the end in mind. Plan out the months, the weeks and then finally put in daily actions that will help you achieve your goal. Remember, you don’t need to know the full picture, you just need to know the next step to take. When you take daily action you slowly develop the skills needed. One day the big goal you dreamed off you achieve and you are the one helping other to achieve that same goal.
7. You fail to achieve goals due to self-sabotage.
Self-sabotage is a popular reason not to achieve a goal. With weight loss, for example, you may have a bad habit of snacking in the evenings. You eat fantastic all day but the night snacking is pulling you towards a negative result. To change this around you need to slowly eliminate the bad automated habits. Naturally, this is much easier said than done.
To eliminate bad habits, work towards replacing the habit with another habit. Taking the night snacking example, I know a lady who replaced her eating habit with snacking on carrots at night. She realized the crunchy texture is what she enjoyed. Another person I know replaced the habit slowly by using stress balls to exercise the hands instead of munching on snacks.
Sometimes the self-sabotage comes from feeling unworthy of the goal. I know this as I’ve been down this road where I felt this way. Working through confidence and worthiness helps to proceed with a goal when you feel this way. Again, easier said than done. With self-esteem, I first sought help from a professional and read positive and motivational quotes daily .
Another way to stay on track with your goasl is being part of a support group and having a few friends to discuss things over with helped too. Just remember you are worth it.
Believe in yourself and your goals.
If the goal is something you want to achieve you will find a way to map it out. You will find a way to focus on your goal and stop allowing the excuses to stop you from achieving them. You can stop failing at goals. It is possible to step through setbacks, learn from failures and work out strategies to help you achieve your goals. It is all possible. As Marie Forleo says “It’s all figureoutable.“
Sometimes you just need a little help along the way to learn and grow.
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