As mothers day draws near, you hear and read so much about mothers day and gifts to buy your mum. However, the most valuable present of all on mothers day is your time. But, what if your mum has passed on.
If you have children of your own you may start dropping hints of things you might like for mothers day. Or, you are drawn to discuss what mothers day means to you.
Mothers day to me appears to be a commercial day for people to promote their gifts or ideas. Because, as a mother, I like to be appreciated every day. So, I prefer no special gift other than the joy of time. For it is time with your mum, you miss the most when she’s gone.
My mum, just like your mum was an amazing mother. Growing up, I recall she had time for the whole family. I don’t recall buying mothers day presents for her. What I do recall is giving her freshly picked flowers or vouchers to help around the home. The memories I have with mum are of the special times we had together not the gifts that were exchanged.
There are multiple ways to give the gift of time on mothers day.
Heartfelt ways to give mum the gift of you and your time.
Make breakfast for your mother. If the children are young and need help in the kitchen, maybe dad can lend a hand to cook or make breakfast for mum. Some mothers like to have breakfast in bed but I was not one of those mothers. I preferred to have breakfast around the dining table with the family. But what I love most is when the children clean up the kitchen after creating and sharing a wonderful buffet breakfast. Who doesn’t love a clean kitchen?
Enjoy a picnic together. Plan a picnic with family on mothers day. Pack your picnic basket and head to the beach, the national park or to one of your favourite locations to enjoy time together. Whenever we went on family picnics we took family games along. Even, when it’s not mothers day and there is only the two of us we still take a particular game along. That game is boules.
The picnic box our family used for many years was not a gift from mum or to mum it was a gift from one of my sisters that was cherished and used over and over again.
Play games together.Whether on a picnic or in the garden we were often playing games. When the children were young we played boules with coloured boules, though today, have pentengue balls in the car and use them we are out and about together.
I have many memories of playing games with my mum and with my children on mothers day and throughout the year. Some of the games played with mum when I was young:
- Pole tennis
- Zoom Ball
With my children, it’s been more bike rides, walking and exploring local parks and nature reserves.
A family walk is another way to enjoy some time together on mothers day. Enjoy a local walk or go on a day trip to explore something new. Treat mum to a coffee when out, I’m sure she would love that. I know I do.
Make a fun voucher card. With a voucher card you can gift your time to help out with something, as this saves time for your mum and enables her to enjoy her time in another way. The something could be; wash her car, clean in the home, tidy the garden, some home cooked meals for the freezer. You know your mum best and know what she’d like.
If you do give a voucher remember mum may need prompting to use it. Therefore, encourage your mum to use your special gift.
Mother, a person who does the work of many for free.
Naturally, mum’s love to be with their family or hear from family on mothers day. Living overseas, a long chat with mum is what both mum and I enjoyed. I’d let mum known when I was calling and quite often I called late in her day, so she could share the beauty of her day with me.
‘Mums Me Time.’ All mums also enjoy ‘me time’. They enjoy time alone. Therefore on mothers day gift time to mum so she can enjoy some alone time. Maybe she’ll get the chance to enjoy a book, pamper herself or just sit and relax. The gift of time is a gift of for self-love.
Thoughts of mum on Mothers day.
As mothers day draws near and throughout the year, mum is never that far away. For she is always in my thoughts and in my heart.
If your mum has passed on, it may be a day you can have flowers sent to the grave or you may take yourself if you live nearby.
Mothers day is one of the days that can feel emotionally draining. One way I find helps with not feeling so sad and at a loss in times of sorrow is to share positive memories. Reflect on the good times you shared with your mum and share them with your family and friends. Talk about the positive times and comments.
Above I mentioned playing zoom ball with my sisters and I played in the garden with my mum. The game is for two players and we used to take it in turns playing the winner. Mum would chant as we played “I must, I must improve my bust.‘ Naturally, I can’t play the game today without thinking of this chant and mum.
Not a day goes past without me thinking about my mum and mothers day is no different. I will think and reflect on all the good times. I will appreciate the memories created and share the stories with my children as we spend time together.
Notes To Mum, Remembering Time Together.
“Mother’s hold their children’s hands for a while, but their hearts forever.” a well known saying. If you were to write notes to your mum what would they say?
Everything I am you helped me to be.Anon
Mum, heroes of the world are women like you.Unknown
I’ll aways remember the things you have taught me and how much you love me.Unknown
To the world, you may be one person, but to the one person, you are the world.Anon
I’ll always remember the things you have taught me and how much you love me.Unknown
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.Unknown
Those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us every day. Unseen, unheard but always near, still loved, still missed, and held so dear.”Unknown
Whether your mum is near or far cherish the time you have together. Cherish the memories you create, not just on mothers day but every day. For it is these moments in time that will live in your heart forever.
Angie blogs about setting goals and mastering habits as well as productivity and living abroad. She started blogging while learning the skills to start an online business. Her goal to work online came about due to wanting to see overseas family and travel around Australia. Her mission is to help others succeed with their goals and also help them succeed with their Pinterest and blogging. Angie often shares tips and tricks while walking the beaches or near the lake on the Central Coast NSW Australia.